It is not about us! So many are miserable in marriage; primarily because they have created their own misery. Their disappointments are a result of a warped view and unbiblical expectations about marriage.
"The world cannot know what marriage is without learning it from God. The natural man does not have the capacities to see or receive or feel the wonder of what God has designed for marriage to be."
I pray that God will strengthen and protect us from the world's silly notions about marriage and that we might be used by God to help set many free from "small, worldly, culturally contaminated, self-centered, Christ-ignoring, God-neglecting, romance-intoxicated, unbiblical views of marriage."
Text in quotes taken from a sermon preached by John Piper